
An illustration of the unconditional love between a young girl and her dog. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Today is a new day , I don’t need to use today. I have been struggling with things lately , as it seems anxiety has returned for a short time . I wish I could say this was an easy thing to deal with , but it isn’t. I can sometimes feel this addiction next to me , as just like a shadow following me . Its waiting for me to make a mistake, this monster is just in the shadows waiting for me to make a mistake. This is driving anxiety for me , as this may sound dramatic to most , its horrifying to me . It feels anxiety is consuming me yet again and I can’t stop it, I have been fighting hard the last few days and it’s not letting up.
Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of their actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships.
I think most of us have experienced conditional love , or help that has conditions set for a reward in return. For example a bank loan , you borrow their money and pay interest for using it. Conditional love is no different, as we tend to show love towards someone with the condition they do what we say or give us something in return. When we were growing up or even raising our own children we instill the thoughts of conditional love . When we were clean and followed our parents wishes we were good , as when were bad it someone else’s eyes we were scolded and the love vanished . So there we have another double-edged sword ? On one hand we need to teach values to our children , but at what expense . I believe that selfish and controlling actions are also accompanied by this as I have first-rate experience with this. Why do we need a return for our personal investments , this has really interested me as of late. The word ” if ” is the determining factor in this equation , as it defines conditional to unconditional. The relationships today end early due to these conditions in my opinion, as most are ridiculous to begin with. We all know the most popular , as being money , if your rich it seems love is easier to find. I was also a transgressor of conditional love , I had my own conditions as I look back on my most recent relationships and now wonder what was the actual driving factor . This affliction is at sometimes immeasurable levels and I need to find a way to change this behavior but it’s very hard to do . I need to remain in counseling for this , and maybe even take this to the next level of a psychiatrist .
I have a long way to go and patients will be needed as this is another hard thing for me. Generally speaking I feel ponderous or cumbersome here lately , I hope all have an awesome day..
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As hard as it may be to believe, we are all looking for love and whether conditional or unconditional we grab what we can. I hope you find the unconditional love that you deserve.
I do think I had it at one time…..Its a shame I didn’t know it….!!!
Tim I love your blog! Very thought provoking. Your journey will awaken a part of you that you didn’t realize existed or perhaps you did…it’s good to face these thoughts and question. I once asked a psychiatrist years ago if everything is made of molecules why can’t i put my hand through it, why can’t I move at the same vibration and pass through, why. We all have questions and if we look deep enough within ourselves we can answer those very same questions. Settle for no one Tim, because you are someone. If people will not treat you with the same respect you give them they don’t deserve your time. There are people out there who will give unconditionally. Few and far between, but they are out there….I think in a past life I was an animal (but thats another post)
Thanks Tia ….Yes I have been learning a lot of new things about me …I just hope it all will be good in the end….
Our relationship is suffering, trying give u what I never had, u say idk how to love u bae, but I say show me the way ❤