Today is a new day , I don’t need to use today . Our flying adventure yesterday was postponed from morning until afternoon due to weather . We did go up at around 2;30 pm to an awesome sky as our group had a great time . Our pilot was my cousin’s son , and he did a superb job as I was certainly impressed with his ability’s .
Why do we refuse to acknowledge and accept our feelings for each other? We are taught from a young age that showing feelings is a sign of weakness. In the grocery store the other day, I overheard a mom tell her son, “Boys don’t cry, suck it up, get control over yourself. Someday, you will become a man.” It struck me how young we start to teach our children to hide or stuff feelings under the guise of “self-control,” It’s not just a “boy” issue… we teach girls similarly. “Don’t be such a drama queen!”
Yes.. indeed… in our culture expressing our feelings are rarely encouraged.
How do we know how we are feeling? It’s interesting to ask a child.. What is anger? What is happiness? What is love? Their answers always amaze me because it is a complex question. Mostly they express what these feelings are by how their young bodies react. For example,
I know I’m angry when my body feels tight all over
I know I’m loved when I get those butterflies flying in my tummy
I know I’m scared when the hair stands up on my arm.
Can you define what you are feeling?
Do you lump all of your feelings into one label?
Jealousy, Disappointment, Frustration, all gets lumped as ANGER or MAD
Happiness, Joy, Pleasure, all gets lumped as LOVE
As adults we become numb or calloused to recognizing our feelings rather good or bad.
I believe we are conditioned to keep them inside hidden from others.
When someone expresses a feeling, rather negative or positive towards you, stop for a minute and think about how much courage it took to really express that feeling, to open up their soul to you. Remember that for years, they have been conditioned to not share, to keep it locked up inside, to not embarrass themselves, or go out on a limb.
Why would we want to live in fear rather than bringing problems out in the open ? I ‘m sure it’s because we have to be better than anyone else. …Hmmmm yes we don’t want others to know our short comings . I have been guilty of this just as much as others have , and we all are guilty of this to a certain extent at one time or another . Human nature I believe is a funny thing , as in my opinion its dependent on several factors as to how we act. On one hand we all want to be sensitive towards others while all the time being tough and not letting people get the best of us . Why is it that status is such a big part of our lives ? Do we truly worry about what we have compared to others ?…. Yes we do.!!!!!!! I often caught myself talking such ridiculous thoughts , as well as hearing others speaking like there better than others. So where does this all end ? It ends here for me !!!!!! I am concentrating on changing my views of myself and others , I refuse to make people think I am something I’m not . I will not associate with people who think and stress to me there someone there not , because when it comes down to it we all know who as we are we just need to be satisfied with it.
I’m Tim , thanks for taking the time to read my blog … I hope all have a great day, I feel sublime…!!!!!
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- The Power of Surrender (mjsen.wordpress.com)
- Subtle forms of self-anger (theunbrokenstreamoflife.wordpress.com)
- Who’s right!?? (lexiacherryrelationshipcoach.wordpress.com)
- Dealing with Anger in Conflict (part 1 of 2) (christopherscottblog.typepad.com)
- Dealing with Anger in Conflict (part 2 of 2) (christopherscottblog.typepad.com)
- Anger Management in early years (unwrappingminds.wordpress.com)